Thursday, July 29, 2010

Hospitality

I am really, really aware that the immigration thing is complicated.  I've actually given it a lot of thought and as soon as I get my thoughts organized, I'm going to post on it.  However, I was reading this, and it seems to speak to  a part, at least, of my feelings on it. 

Hospitality
Look Who's Coming for Dinner!

His hallmark was his open tent policy. He pitched his non-profit hospitality in the middle of the desert and pulled in every traveler and nomad for a hot meal and a night's rest.
Some considered him an extremist. Once he was in the middle of a chat with G‑d Himself when some travelers appeared in the distance. He excused himself and ran off to invite in the guests! To Abraham, hospitality was greater even than communion with G‑d.
The tradition stayed in the family. When the Roman Emperor Julian ordered the establishment of hostels for transients in every city, he referred to the example of the Jews "in whose midst no stranger goes uncared for." Even in the worst of times, every Jewish community had a society to provide food and lodging for any traveler without discrimination.
It's such a great mitzvah, you don't want to wait for someone to call and askHow To Host
Hospitality—Hachnasat Orchim—is primarily fulfilled by providing for visitors from out of town. But local guests are fine, too. Since it's such a great mitzvah, you don't want to wait for someone to call and ask: invite them yourself or volunteer your home to local organizations that place visitors.
Once inside, some guests are too abashed to ask for a cold drink or an extra pillow. A good host anticipates their needs.
Here's another cue from Abraham: Although he had many servants, he stood over his guests and served their needs himself. If it's such a great mitzvah, why give it away?
When your guests leave, make sure to pack them some kosher food for the road. It's a mitzvah to escort them to the airport, bus or train, or at least four cubits (approximately seven feet) from your home's entrance. In fact, the reward for escorting guests exceeds the reward for everything else we afford them. It goes beyond caring for them in your town—you want to ensure they get to their next destination safe and sound.




Chabad.org  

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Frontier Communications, a Thorn in My Side

1.  Prior to accepting my new position, I called to ensure that this staff housing had DSL available through the only phone company available.  I was assured that, indeed, dsl was available in the staff quarters.
2.  I signed the contract and a little over  two weeks ago, called to make arrangements for service installation on Monday, July 19
3.  Four  days ago, a 'customer service representative' called my cell phone which, as most of you know, does not work down here and left the message that there was no DSL available in that location,that the equipment had been order, I was on the waiting list, and did I want dial up while I waited?  Translation:  We didn't order any equipment until we had a client that we couldn't get to buy this bleeping dial up service.  They did NOT call the land line for which I pay them.
4.   Three days ago, when I checked my cell v/m messages, I called them back, declined dial up service.  They agreed to turn on my service on the 19 of July, but said they would not need to come into the house as those units were already pre-wired
5. I drove out last night with hanging clothes and kitchen supplies, walked through the unit and guess what?  No jacks anyplace
6.  I called the company this moirning and got yet another 'customer service' representative'.  Explained the issue.  He said, well, the appointment to turn on the service from the pole would still stand, but they'd need to drive back out the next day in order to come in and install jacks.  Say what?  Is he serious?  I am moving a good two hundred miles east of South dumb  ______________, and they are going to make two trips???? We haven't tossed enough petroleum product into the environment this summer?  These jokers have to make two trips? 

As we wound down our conversation, I asked Gary, my 'customer service representative'  where other places did Frontier Communications serve.  His response, and he was proud of this, 'Why we serve West Virginia, parts of the rural north east, in fact, we fill the communications needs of the rural niche of the market.'

Well, not too darned well. I'd say.  Then, I got to thinking....Since I was twenty one years old, I have lived in big cities, and I love big cities and love city people.  They will come running with their last dollar and their last clean shirt if you need it.  They will also tell you off good and proper and loud if they see you downtown shopping if you haven't paid you back.  Country people are much, much more low key.  They will also come running with money and clothes, but if you don't pay them back, they'll won't stay a word, just talk about you.  To everyone they know.BUT, they won't be loud when they do it.

I may have remained in the east too long, because just recently I was ranting about some perceived injustice, and my older brother said, 'Well, get a soap box, climb up on it and tell him what you think, sister.'  And I didn't think I was that loud.  Now, I'm thinking of of starting a face book page where people call in their issues with Frontier--betcha I'll get stories of poor service and obsolete equipment. 

Thursday, July 8, 2010

This time the Lord closed a window and opened a big ole' door

The 'dream ' job fell through, just one thing after another not working out, til the Letter of Intent had expired (freeing me up to look elsewhere), and lo and behold I get a phone call from another school.



Positives:
1.  More Money
2.  Grad school tuition paid in full--none of this "take the course, pay for it and when you get the grade, we'll  reimburse you like the Dept of Corrections did.  These people pay the tuition right up front, no out of pocket for moi!
3.  New laptop, mine, for educational purposes,  for the duration
4.  Brand new housing complete with air conditioner!
5.  Hi speed internet 
6.  Matching  401 k 
7.  Complete medical benefits--including 300 annually to cover the services of a medicine man (and please don't get all Anglo  on me and look down your noses).  I have learned to value the counsel of the spiritual leaders out here and do not take this benefit lightly.

Negatives
1.  Just the teensiest bit remote--my mail now will be delivered and held for pick up at the Trading Post(Then again, the trading post is right there , and if we get snowed in, at least I can get coffee and eggs and laundry detergent.    If  I have the stuff to make an omlette, brew a pot of coffee and wash my clothes, I can go quite a long time)
2. 2 hours from Gallup--no running into Gallup for supper and/or a movie  after work.

As my Mom taught me, I made a list of positives and negatives. I signed the contract and am  moving next Sunday. 

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

The Ridiculous--Old Rte 66 Gallup

Even More Sublime

The Sublime

Sunset Over Verdigris Bend Chapter 5

                                                                 CHAPTER FIVE

    “Libba, are   you finished with the deviled eggs?  I’m almost ready to serve.”  Virginia spooned the potato salad into a serving dish.

    As  this was not what was termed a ‘special occasion’, the family  did not eat in the dining room.  They simply pulled the big round table into the middle of the country kitchen and congregated around it. 

    “Why can’t I get a nose ring?  Everybody is getting one.  Aunt Lib, don’t you think I should get a nose ring?”  Melissa turned, looking for an ally.

    “Oh, no, you don’t.  You’re not dragging me into this.”  Libba reached for the gravy.

    Marilyn, Lib’s sister-in-law, gave her a grateful smile.  Melissa gave up.  For the moment.

    “O.K.  O.K.  Aunt Libba, us kids didn’t get to see anything last Friday.  Mr. McNulty rushed all of us out the back door as if there had been a bomb inside.  What did you see?”

    “Not at the dinner table, dear,” Virginia had many rules.  Near the top of the list was the one about only pleasant conversation at the dinner table.

    “Mother, give us a break.  I’m interested in that myself,” Larry forked his third hamburger onto his plate. 

    “This is getting to be a drag.  I didn’t see anything.   I don’t know anything.  I was ducking Chuck McNulty’s libido.”

    “Elizabeth!”  Virginia nodded towards the girls.

    “What!  It’s true, Mother.  The man’s a pig, and if he doesn’t quit, I’m going to complain  to the school board.”

    “Oh, Chuck’s harmless.  He does that to all his teachers.”

    “We’re not HIS teachers, and it’s harassment, Mother.  I don’t have to take it. Furthermore, why do you always insist that I be ‘nice’ no matter what kind of crap other people pull?”

    “Don’t raise your voice at your mother.  I won’t stand for it.”  Roger stood up and poured coffee.  “On the other hand, if that old fool is out of line, you don’t have to stand for that.  Tell him if he can’t keep in his pants, you’ll whack it off with a paper cutter.  Then do it.”

    “Roger!  Well, I never!”

    “I mean it, Virginia.  She doesn’t have to tolerate that sort of nonsense, and if she doesn’t want to face him, her brother and I can talk to him for her.”

    Libba stood up and kissed her father. “Thanks, Daddy, but it’s nothing I can’t handle.  By the way, I’ve been meaning to ask you something.  Do you prune fruit trees in the fall or the spring?”

    “Well, I’ve always found that the best time was whenever I had the pruning shears in my hand,” he took a sip of the coffee,     “Why you thinking about pruning Mom and Dad’s trees?”

    “I did already.  Yesterday.”

    “Well, then, if they don’t die,  fall is best.”  He sat back down at the kitchen table.

    Warmed by her father’s support about Chuck, Libba began to open up.
 
   “I did talk to Bobby yesterday, though.  He was on his way over to see Miss Ardis.  He has the notion that the body might be Emily Fournier .  Larry!  Here, take my napkin.” 

    Larry had knocked over his iced tea, and his hamburger was swimming on the plate.

    Virginia absent-mindedly lifted the wet tablecloth and put a napkin underneath to absorb the spilt tea.  For once her curiosity won out over her concern for dinner table decorum.

    “Emily Fournier.  My Land.  I haven’t thought of her in years.  Why, I just assumed she had gone back to Chicago.  I thought I had heard Miss Ardis say she had heard from her or something.  Why would Bobby think of Emily after all this time?”

    “Well, he thinks it’s unlikely that a tramp would have known that the Old Red Building was deserted a large part of the time.  The skeleton looks like that of a woman.  According to Bobby, the only local women who disappeared from around here within the past thirty years  were Emily and Pearl Watkins.”  .
   
    “Pearl Watkins?    Emily Fournier?  Who were these women?”  Marilyn had  moved to Verdigris Bend when she was in high school.  
 
    “Emily Fournier was an art teacher who disappeared in nineteen eighty three.  She was Miss Ardis’ niece.  Pearl Watkins was a woman who lived up around Skiatook with her husband and daughter.  One night in nineteen seventy-five,  she and her little girl just disappeared.     No one ever heard from her or her daughter again.”  Libba reached for more potato salad.

    “Yes, they did.    ” 

    Everyone stopped in mid-chew and looked at Virginia.      “Rose Hepler saw Nancy, the daughter, a couple of years ago over at a hospital in Oklahoma City.  Saint Anthony’s, I think she said.  Or Saint  Anne’s.  I don’t know.  I just remember it was a  Saint something or other.”

    “Well,” Virginia was on her way.  “Rose’s cousin, Violet....that family gave an entire generation of girls flower names.  Did you ever hear of anything so ridiculous? .  Anyway, Violet, who lives in Shawnee, was in the hospital  with a stroke.   Rose went to see her, and the nurse who came in to change Violet’s sheets was Nancy.”

    “And, you know, it was the funniest thing.  Nancy wouldn’t admit who she was.  But, you know Rose.  She’s like an old box turtle  when she gets into something, and she would not let it go.   Finally, Nancy did acknowledge her identity, but begged Rose not to tell anyone back here.  On account of her father.  He used to beat both her and her mother terribly, I guess.”

    “And Rose runs home and tells you.  Smart.”  Roger swallowed the last of his coffee.

    ”Mama, you had better tell Bobby what you told me.  Then he can strike Pearl off his list.  And that leaves Emily.”  Libba felt a deep sadness inside.

    “Elizabeth, if this turns out to be Emily Fournier that they have found, I hope you are not going to let it get you down.  Just when you had begun to look better.”

    “I wasn’t aware that I had looked badly, Mother,” and at the look of protest, “No, I know what you mean.  It doesn’t bother me.  Really.” 

    First Miss Millie and now her mother.  Monday morning.  Call the hairdresser, and then ask Merideth if Rebecca Muldoon is still  giving free facials in order to get people to buy her cosmetics.

    “In a way, this sounds awful, but if it is Emily, I’ll know she didn’t just leave without saying good-bye.  When I was younger, I couldn’t understand how she could leave without telling me.”

    “Emily Fournier was nothing in this world  but a college educated  call girl.”  The words  popped out of Larry’s mouth, as if he had no control over them.|

    “Larry Troy Jeffreys!  What is becoming of this family?”  Virginia looked as she were about to pass out.

    “What’s a call girl?”  Melissa looked up from her plate.  “Can't you call any girl?”

    “Hon, why don’t you go out and play with the kittens,” as Marilyn pushed Missy out the door, she looked at her husband as if she had never seen him before.  Michelle, momentarily forgotten, slid into a corner, quiet and all ears.

    Libba put down her fork and looked at her brother, “I know what’s wrong with you.  You had a crush on Emily, and she was way too old for you.  You never could take rejection, but good grief, Lar, you’re a grown man, now.”

    Larry sat staring at his soggy hamburger and his empty tea glass.  Without looking up, he said, “Yeah.  You’re right, sis. I’m sorry.  It was no secret that I had a crush on her, and now, I’m acting like an ass.” He looked , involuntarily, at his mother who , apparently, had so overloaded on bad language that she  had not  even heard his last lapse.  He  stood up,  “Hey, who’s for some help in the kitchen?  Pop, what do you say we do the dishes?  Since the women cooked, we can give them a rest.”

          “Give them a rest yourself.  You’re the one who swore at the table.  I’m watching the Cowboys.  There’s a game on at two o’clock, and I just have time to get my feet up,” Roger stood up and without a backward glance, walked away.  A totally unrehabilitated male  to the  end.

    “Well, nuts.  Who’s going to help me?  Doing the dishes is no fun without David, oh, hell.  Libba, I’m a real big mouth today.”

    Libba reached out and put an arm around Larry’s waist.  “Don’t worry about it.  I know you guys were friends, and it’s not you he left.  Besides, after everything, sometimes I still miss the jerk myself. Tell you what I’ll let you off the hook for today.  Mom and Marilyn did most of the cooking.  I’ll do the dishes.  Go watch the game with Daddy  You know I don't like anything about football but the halftime show.”

    Marilyn jumped up, “Oh yeah, right.  Like I’m going to sit here and let you clean up.  Come on.  We’ll be done in no time.”  In two seconds the woman had the leftovers set up in the center of the table and were scraping dirty dishes. 

       
    She was turning the corner from her parents’ street in order to head out to Gran’s when she saw Bobby coming out of the drugstore.  Without signaling, she pulled into the gravel drive and honked.

    “Lady, can I see your license?  You just committed at least three moving violations.”

    “Please, I didn’t kick up nearly as much gravel as you did yesterday in my driveway.  Besides, give me a ticket, and I won’t tell you what Mother told me at dinner just now,” she squinted at him, through the setting sun.

    Bobby leaned into her window,  “What did Virginia have to say that would interest me?”

    “Oh, nothing really, just  that Nancy Watkins and her mother are living in Oklahoma City which would definitely rule out Pearl as your dead body..”

    He opened up the tobacco he had just bought, looked her straight in the eye and spoke.  “You talked to her mother about what we discussed?  Your mother, Libba?  Jesus H. Christ!  That’s worse than telling Merideth.”

    “Take it easy, Bobby.   Mother’s not that bad.  Besides, I told her to talk to you.  When she does, you can give her the Silence is Golden speech.”

    In a few sentences she recounted Virginia’s story of Nancy.  He was impressed.

    “Did Rose see Pearl?  Or just Nancy?”

    “Why, just Nancy, I think.  But, why would she lie about her mother?  That’s pretty far-fetched, don’t you think?”

    “Yeah, I do.  But, just to be sure, I probably ought to talk to Rose myself, maybe make  a few phone calls to Oklahoma City.  Well, where are  you headed?  Want to go up to the cafĂ© and have a cup of coffee?”

    “I wouldn’t mind except that I promised to see Miss Ardis this evening.  I haven’t been over to her place since I moved in, and she  invited me this morning at church.” 

    He smelled good, like leather.  Lately all the men she knew smelled like fruit salad.
  
    “Suit yourself.  I’m going to get a cup of coffee.  See you.”

    This time it was she who sat for a moment watching him walk away. For about the third time in two days, she noticed how attractive he was.   He had the gait of a man who had ridden horses from the time he could walk.  His sheepskin lined jacket bore the weathered look that people in cities paid top dollar to get, and his jeans covered a butt  that was compact and tight. And, more attractive, almost, than the butt, was the fact that he had listened to her, had appeared to give her thoughts about Nancy and Pearl   due consideration. Who was she kidding?  The butt was , definitely, more attractive than the mind..

    Oh, Lord.  Was the world ready for a Bobby Carmichael  who looked like he did and treated her as an adult?  The world be damned.  Was she ready for such a man?   Forcing her heart to beat in a more sedate manner, Libba backed the car out of the parking lot and drove off, careful, this time, not to raise gravel.   

Sunday, July 4, 2010

IS THERE SOMEPLACE YOU CAN GO TO PURCHASE SOME COMMON SENSE?

It was  four in the morning, and , normally, the silence was , very nearly, visible.  On the reservation, in the village where I am living, there are no cars, no railroads, no boom boxes playing at all hours of the night.  Most of the time, while  lying in my bed, I hear nothing more than a   dog,  horse or, occasionally, a hungry coyote walking around outside.   However, I  had been awakened by, what?  The sound of footsteps, too many to be only one creature.  And what else? Snorts? Oh, Lord.

        After  a lifetime of residing in big, northeastern cities, I  have found myself in a village on the Navajo reservation that had no street lights, no door to door mail delivery, no gas station closer than twenty miles. Up to right that moment, I had found the change to be a fabulously wonderful experience. Also,  and while I had not, before, thought of it as a problem,  there is  no police station closer than Chinle, thirty miles away.

         An additional source of concern was that this was a   weekend. My Navajo co-workers, who live on school grounds only during the week,  had all gone back to their homes and were, therefore, spread out all over the rez.   The only single other person in the entire school compound, at that moment, was another employee, a lovely man, indeed, who resides in the apartment four doors down from mine.   However, I have noticed that he appears to  have a slight problem with , shall we say, imbibing?  Yes, let’s just say that.  As the  issue only arises on the weekends, and, as I am  a ’live and let live’ sort of a person, I have never cared.  However,  I was fully aware that by  this time on  a Sunday morning,  the smart money was  that the man would  be so plotzed  a tornado could send him to Oz and back, and he’d never awaken. 

        Once, while working in the prison, I was preparing to take one of my solo car trips.  A  student , worried about my safety,  offered to tell me where, along the Allegheny River, he had buried a Smith and Wesson.  While I appreciated and was quite  touched by  his concern, I didn’t think it advisable to take off for  Florida armed with a pistol that could be tied to a mob hit. That morning, lying in bed,  listening to noises outside my  kitchen door, I regretted that decision.  A lot. 

        With the covers pulled up over my head, I could not  help thinking that  this situation had the potential to end badly.

        The noise continued, no matter how I willed  it to cease.  I knew I could not  stay there  forever. Whoever was there might decide to come in.  At my school,   single staff quarters consist of  a one-room apartment, tiny kitchen, even tinier bathroom.  No closets, no hidden crannies, and , absolutely, no place for a chubby sixty year old woman to hide 

        I needed to know what I was facing. Pulling myself together, I tiptoed  through  to the kitchen.  As I pass the sink, I  reached into  the silverware  drawer and grabbed the only thing I thought might be of some help….a cheese slicer?  Don’t know why, closest thing at hand? A desire for a nice piece of Lorraine Swiss prior to dying?    I got to the back door and peeked

        “Oh my goodness!  Daddy was right.  I need a keeper!  Someone to just walk alongside me and keep me out of trouble.”

       
        My dad never had a lot of faith in my common sense or in my ability to focus on what he regarded to be the important things.  Once, when I was very young, I remember our family going to a circus  that had set up somewhere in Turley.  The day was unusual and stuck in my mind, no doubt, because my Dad was there at all. Working six days a week, he took off on Sundays to go to church.  That was it.  At any rate, on this day, he got us balloons, bent down and tied mine to my wrist.  Then, he handed me off to my Mother, with (and I remember this quite clearly), ‘Hold onto the girl, Alene.  She may take  a notion to run off with the clowns.’

        Well, I didn’t run off with them that day, but I have, through the years, awakened next to a clown or two,.  So far, however,   I’ve kept those stories from my children…Moving on.

        Daddy , also, felt that I spent too much time spinning stories in my head.  We lived on one side of Peoria Avenue, and my Grandmother Britton lived on the other. The major highway through town, it could be quite busy. Daddy would let my younger  brother cross   by himself all the time.  He insisted, however, that  I had to come to his auto repair  garage, wait for him to get a free minute, and then, he’d walk me across the highway.  Coming back, same deal.  I had to stand on the other side til he could come and cross me. I guess he thought I’d get so deep in my own head that I’d walk in front of a truck.


         At any rate, back to the situation at hand. The impulsivity that had so concerned Daddy was the reason I was looking out this particular kitchen window at all.   The year before, and for no other reason than I had become bored, I retired from the School District of Philadelphia, and after  an entire adult  lifetime of living in big, northeastern cities, I  wound up in this village on the rez.  The woolgathering came into play when, about six months prior, up on Interstate Forty,  I had rolled my Chevy sedan  five times , darn near killing myself.  After that, my brothers found me a pick up truck, spent hours and hours and hundreds of dollars  to make it safe  (I think Daddy charged them with keeping an eye on me), and now I have this gorgeous extended cab GMC truck which I just adore.   After school, it has become  my own personal idea of heaven to be able to go bouncing  up the dirt roads, taking pictures  of the beautiful Southwestern  vistas while  listening to Cole Porter music

        However, pickup trucks have one problem  With no ballast in the truck bed, they have a tendency to leave the road.  My new friends suggested kitty litter.  My brother told me  to go to  Lowe’s and buy  big bags of sand to place  over the axles.  I had a better idea.  I drove up the mountain into Window Rock, bought two bales of hay and had the man throw them into the back. Perfect! They would keep me on the ground all winter, and not make the truck bed all gritty the way  sand or kitty litter would do. I had been so very pleased with myself.

        However, and this is the big HOWEVER, I had not made allowance for the fact that livestock roams loose out here. The truth is coming to you.  I was  staring out into the dark desert morning  at  six horses who had their heads in my truck bed. Heads?  One was  up on his hind legs,  with his front hooves in the bed!  And, please believe me, they were  chowing down!  All they needed was  ketchup and salt.

        All right, now that was not so bad.  Lesson learned. There was a hardware store in Window Rock.  They had sand.  I put the cheese slicer back where it belonged , turned and went back to bed.  I felt so relieved.

        The real problem presented itself the next morning.  I opened up the back door and prepared to step out and drink my coffee in the fresh  early morning air,  Did I say fresh?
   
        While humans do not, normally and if they are in their right minds,  ‘dispose’ of the by-products of their dinners right in the exact spot where they have been eaten, horses are not so  fastidious.  My late night diners had remained right outside my kitchen (discussing the current state of the economy, I can only assume) until their food had been thoroughly digested,  at which time they passed it.

         I thought about cleaning it up, but I had no pitchfork handy, and believe me, this was too much to pick up with a paper towel, or for that matter, an entire roll of paper towels. I was left with  no alternative, but  to explain, on Monday, to the returning staff members who lived adjacent to me why, when they opened their kitchen doors, they were greeted  with piles and piles of horse shit!

        See? Daddy was right.  I really may need a keeper.